Are you in a romantic relationship with your parents?

𝐈𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮

You tell your husband you're going out for lunch with your girls

And he replies “𝐎𝐊 𝐛𝐚𝐛𝐞, 𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞. 𝐂𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐦𝐞 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠” smiles & gives you a kiss

And your instant reaction is to 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐨𝐲𝐞𝐝?

𝐋𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧'𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮

Here's what's happening subconsciously

Your parents were either narcissists or emotionally immature

When you expressed independence such as going out with friends, their reaction was to ask you questions, ground you

Or they ignored you

Everytime you expressed doing something on your own, it was met with questions, reservations or a fight

So your subconscious mind recorded these events as a memory with a belief running like a script

And that script repeats over & over again “𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥. 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥. 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭. 𝐘𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞, 𝐮𝐧𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐝…”

That script also has words that your parents said such as “𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧'𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭…𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐚 𝐛𝐚𝐝 𝐠𝐢𝐫𝐥…𝐈'𝐦 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮”

You believe love is meant to feel restricted & controlling

And now as an adult in a loving relationship, you expect your husband to be like your parents

You want him to 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬

You expect him to control you & when he doesn't you 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐮𝐧𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐲 𝐡𝐢𝐦

You also feel paranoid that you did something wrong or he's cheating on you, that's why he's being so nice

𝐘𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐡𝐢𝐦, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮

You can heal from this

Your subconscious mind is this really clever machine, that will show you, your beliefs in your reality

It's on autopilot that creates behaviors from the 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭'𝐬 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝

The moment you feel triggered is your subconscious mind saying,

“𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐰𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐠𝐨 𝐧𝐨𝐰. 𝐋𝐨𝐨𝐤, 𝐡𝐞'𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐲. 𝐒𝐞𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐨𝐭. 𝐈'𝐦 𝐭𝐫𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐫𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫”

However, because your parents didn't teach you the tools to regulate your nervous system & think better

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐮𝐩 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐨𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐮𝐬𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝

You question, interrogate, get paranoid just like your parents did 𝐭𝐨𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝

This creates the Sabotage Cycle™️ reinforcing the belief that you're unlovable, unwanted & repeating the script you've had since childhood

And this is why getting to the root cause of the Sabotage Cycle™️ by rewiring the subconscious, is so important

𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧'𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡

That movie playing from childhood, is keeping you in the 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲 of that little girl who didn't feel loved by her parents

And no matter how many times you journal about your dream life or affirm it a million times, you're more likely to go back to old habits

Because behavior is 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐛𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐛𝐲 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐰𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲

And when you create a new identity where you're loved, abundant, rich, happy, healthy, in love, at peace, mentally, physically & spiritually balanced in 8 areas of your life

That's how you manage your emotions, set better boundaries, become triggerless & live the life on your vision board

You become your dream woman, have a ton of confidence to fulfill your dreams while embracing your femininity

Here's an exercise to figure out which movie is playing in your subconscious

Close your eyes

Breathe deeply in & out until you feel relaxed

Let your mind empty itself. Focus on your breath going in between your nose and top lip

Now ask yourself these questions: “𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐦 𝐈?”

“𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭”?

Let an image come up or words

If no images come up, you feel numb or can’t answer the question with confidence,

That means the movie in your mind is of a painful childhood that you haven't healed from.