Signs of a Sibling Wound™️

Your siblings (or friends if you didn't have siblings) affect your well being & mental health

And this isn’t spoken about enough in the healing space 

Siblings give you a sense of belonging that your parents can't give

Parents create safety emotionally, physically & financially 

While siblings create safety in your 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝

This is vital in growing up as a healthy adult

You need to feel like you belong, recognised, valued, important, loved & enough 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧 your child like identity

And that can only be done via your siblings (or friends)

The dynamic between your siblings go on to affect your friendships, marriage, career & mental health

If you grew up in a home that had enmeshment, cultural expectations, narcissists/emotionally unavailable parents, you're the black sheep or parents favored your siblings over you

You definitely have a Sibling Wound™️

Studies are now beginning to show that when you have a strained relationship with siblings, you're more likely to be depressed by the age of 50

I've spoken about the Sister Wound™️ before & have a program on how to heal it (click the link in my bio)

Here are some signs you may have a Sibling Wound™️

Please note these signs do interchange with a Parent Wound™️. 

I'll be doing a series this week on the subtle differences so keep a look out 

1. You constantly seek validation in everything you do, especially from family. You need validation otherwise, you feel it was pointless. When you don't get praise you feel resentment towards the person you were looking to, for validation. 

2. You don't trust your family with your secrets or problems. They will just use it against you so you disassociate around them

3. You go through periods of isolation where you don't want to see anyone. You feel like you have nothing left to give to your family

4. Often feel like you're the ‘glue’ of the family. You accept bad behavior from siblings, afraid to place boundaries because you know, your siblings will win

5. You overgive to the point of burn out & feel emotional when your family criticizes you. You thought by being nice & giving they would see your worth.

6. No one in your family shows care towards you & only expects you to be the financial/emotional support. If you don't give money, you're verbally/physically abused

7. Intense jealousy towards siblings but then feeling really guilty after for feeling that way towards them

I always had a strained relationship with my siblings 

I was constantly trying to save them, while they kept finding ways to make our relationship difficult 

After my mum’s death, I realized I couldn't ‘save’ them. While it hurt it helped me create tools/find wisdom to pass on to my children 

I had to heal the Sibling Wound™️ so that I no longer felt guilty for not being able to keep my family together

It was never 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐦𝐲 responsibility to do the inner work

It was theirs too 

As Islam teaches me to keep ties, I've made peace with just saying “hi” over text every other week

I no longer feel triggered or upset that my siblings don't check in on their nieces & nephews

And I let go of the hurt that my children may have to grow up the same way I did, not knowing their uncles & aunties

Using hypnosis has helped me heal permanently & become a better mother 

I've broken the cycle of being the sibling pleaser

My kids have their arguments but instead of believing one child over the other we sit down & let them express in a safe circle

We teach our kids what we love about them & guide them to repeat powerful affirmations 

And we recognise the patterns from our childhood & take the time to find ways to make sure we don't pass our traumas onto our kids (hence why I invest heavily in coaching)

Because when you heal your wounds, you heal 7 generations back & 7 generations forward

Isn't that the point? To be better than those before you & pave a better future for those who are yet to come?

If you'd like to get over the guilt of not having a loving relationship with siblings

My Escape the Matrix Hypnosis Audio will help

This is the audio I used to become triggerless about my siblings & create a better life for my family

Download it to your phone & listen to it for 21 days while you sleep

Let yourself fall asleep to the audio

Click HERE to download NOW