6 Traumas you need to heal to embody your femininity

1. The need to overgive

This comes from the belief “𝐈'𝐦 𝐮𝐧𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞” which you learned from your mother
You saw your mother overgive in her marriage, friendships, work etc
She was the one to eat leftovers & let people walk all over her
Which taught you, that if you 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞 & 𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐟𝐢𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞

That's why you lead in the relationship, often need to be in control & always giving til you burn out or feel useless

2. The need to prove

This comes from the belief “𝐈'𝐦 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡” & comes from a father wound
If your father was absent or pushed you to compete, you learned that 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝

You learned that your 𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 wasn't enough because your father didn't show you the love you craved

Which taught you to 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 in return
This is why you overwork, always feel like a failure (despite your achievements) & feel like what you accomplish will 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐛𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡

3. The need to hustle

This comes from a belief of “𝐈 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝”

You base your 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡 𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐠𝐨𝐚𝐥𝐬
This comes from a father wound, where he pushed you to be like a boy & often scolded you for being too soft

If your father was absent, you became the 𝐦𝐚𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 in your life, making it hard for you let go of control

You're a perfectionist, always needing to be right, take the lead & be in control

You only love being the center of attention when it's about 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐝

You don't like random acts of love, such as gifts or compliments. They give you the ick because you 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞

4. The need to always be right

This comes from the belief “𝐈 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠”
This is a generational wound that comes from either grandparents & transferred to you via your DNA

If your grandparents were immigrants, fleeing war, poverty, famine or experienced racism, prejudice or microaggressions you have this need to be in control, otherwise you 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐝𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠
It's just your nervous system remembering what happened in your lineage

You have a blunt, overbearing personality. You find it hard to hire support just in case something goes wrong & you have to fix it

Your reputation means a lot to you, hence why you can't relax. You struggle to sleep, always worrying about your next move, goals & dreams as they feel too difficult to achieve

5. The need to control

This comes from the belief “𝐈'𝐦 𝐮𝐧𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐲”. You feel like you need to control everyone's perception of you
It comes from the mother & father wound where there was a lack of balance in the home

You often heard your parents arguing or if you were raised in a single parent home, you saw your mum struggle a lot.

This keeps you in fight/flight mode on, keeping you in masculine energy. You became the 𝐟𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝𝐧'𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐨𝐧 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 & 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝𝐧'𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐨𝐧 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲

Hence why you're the boss on the streets & in your home. You struggle to trust your husbands decisions & over communicate your needs hoping he will listen

You also don't like surprises or not being in control

6. Comparing yourself to others

This comes from a belief “𝐈'𝐦 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐲/𝐬𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐭” which you learned through your mother

Your mother didn't take care of herself, gossiped about others, put her dreams on hold & blamed others

She often compared you to other kids creating a wound within

Your father hardly complimented you or if he was absent you never got to feel a father's love, which was 𝐝𝐞𝐯𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐢𝐫𝐥

You looked for it outside of yourself for validation, hoping the more attention you got, the more you'd like yourself

But it only made you feel worse.
You compare hoping it will motivate you, but that keeps you in your masculine energy

Instead of admiring successful, beautiful women you feel jealous, insecure & find yourself nit picking at their flaws

You complain how your life was harder than theirs, that's why you don't have what they have. Or you make up scenarios of how their life is 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭

You also feel like a failure when you see other women living your dream life & find yourself sulking, feeling bitter or angry that you don't have that lifestyle

Do you identify with any of the traumas?

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